Sunday, September 25, 2005

Some parenting style of fathers in different cultures...

Note: This is an assignment from CES 403 at WSU

This post is useful to explain some parenting style of fathers in different cultures...

I am interested in how fathers express love in different cultures. I brought up father's love because I don't talk with my father everyday, but my father works very hard to support my education.

Question: "How much does culture define how love is measured?"

I think love is not only can be express in verbal, but also an action. My father never hugs me since I have became an adolescent. He work very hard to make money, and yell at me when I do something wrong. I don't know it is love or not. He is kind of a harsh dad sometimes.

May be some fathers' parenting style is "I let you screw up, I don't help you and let you learn the consequences of doing this bad thing." Well, they might think it is way better than "I help you if you are about to screw up", which eventually the son/daughter becomes "you are so rely on me that you don't have to work, but I will help you anyway." I prefer the former doctrine than the latter one because the latter one may never let the son/daughter grow up in result.

Question: "Do you think as values and morals change that love also changes it's definition within a culture? "

Yes. I think so. Let's think about the following scenario. A family sells weeds for generations and everyone knows that selling weeds is illegal. The father thinks selling weeds are big business and make a lot of money so that he make his son/daughter sell weeds. The father may consider it is love, while the act of making his son/daughter sell weeds is a dirty business. So for this virtually defined scenario, we can believe that values and morals changes can change the definition of love within a culture of family (by this hypothesis it is valid so far).

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